{"id":9174,"date":"2019-05-17T22:15:35","date_gmt":"2019-05-18T03:15:35","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/msalishacarlson.com\/?p=9174"},"modified":"2020-10-08T15:41:04","modified_gmt":"2020-10-08T20:41:04","slug":"when-how-you-see-yourself-gets-in-the-way-of-who-you-are","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/msalishacarlson.com\/when-how-you-see-yourself-gets-in-the-way-of-who-you-are\/","title":{"rendered":"When How You See Yourself Gets in the Way of Who You Are"},"content":{"rendered":"
Remember as a kid going into a funhouse of mirrors? The shape of the mirror would alter how your body looked. Sometimes you\u2019d look only 3 feet tall with a long skinny head. Other times you\u2019d be stick skinny with big feet and a bulging eyes.<\/p>\n
I thought they were hilarious as a kid. And even now, I find as much hilarity as an adult watching my kid\u2019s reactions.<\/p>\n
What I don\u2019t find that funny though, is the perception of myself in my bedroom mirror. Instead when I look in the mirror and see myself trapped inside a bulging body, I feel defeat.<\/p>\n
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I feel defeated by diets that didn\u2019t work.<\/p>\n
I feel defeated by diets that did work, but meant conforming to such a strict meal plan that social events, instead of being enjoyable, became stressful food and drink situations.<\/p>\n
I feel defeated by not having enough time or desire to workout the amount of time necessary to have a concave curve on my body.<\/p>\n
I feel defeated that even my big clothes have become too small.<\/p>\n
And although the mirror only exposes my exterior \u201cflaws\u201d, the defeated mentality spills over and threatens my self-image in the areas of my self-worth, my talents and abilities, and confidence.<\/p>\n
Standing next to a tall, thin woman in the line at the grocery store has actually provoked feelings of inadequacy in myself. I size up what she has in her cart and start making assumptions about the perfect life she must have based on nothing more than her outward appearance.<\/p>\n
At speaking engagements, I\u2019ve found myself wondering \u201cAre they actually interested in what I have to say or are they judging me by what they see?\u201d<\/p>\n
Of friends, this is a hard place to be.<\/p>\n
I know<\/em> that I am more than a number on a scale or the tag on my clothing.<\/p>\n I know<\/em> that the beauty of people comes in our differences (including body size).<\/p>\n I know<\/em> that my experiences and my character and my wisdom are valuable. I also know that I will sometimes withhold sharing these things because of how I see myself.<\/p>\n And girlfriend, when how you see yourself gets in the way of who you are, it\u2019s time to make some changes.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n NOOM.<\/strong><\/p>\n I\u2019m happy to partner with a company that gets the heart of what you see in the mirror. Noom<\/a> is a health & wellness, psychology-based program that teaches people how to identify and change the habits that have been holding them back from a healthy lifestyle and reaching weight loss goals.<\/p>\n Noom\u2019s coaching model is based on cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), a goal-oriented psychotherapy treatment that addresses patterns of thinking and\/or behavior.<\/p>\n For instance, I am a bored eater and an emotional eater. AND\u2026 I don\u2019t like being told I can\u2019t eat something. It\u2019s like reverse psychology to my brain and makes me crave that food all the more.<\/p>\n Noom helps identify the behavior chain (trigger, thought, action, consequence) behind unhealthy habits, to help you gain a better understanding of where you may struggle and where you could make positive changes. It is a completely customized plan to meet your individual needs in weight loss<\/a>, preventing or improving health conditions, and achieving a happy, healthy life.<\/p>\n (Spoiler alert: Noom offers a risk-free, 14 day trial for every plan. You can get yours today!)<\/em><\/a><\/p>\nSo how can you change your self-perception?<\/h2>\n